A Letter To My Nephew

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My first nephew is 9 days old today!  The theme on Velvet Ashes this week is parenting Third Culture Kids.  My nephew won’t be a TCK unless by some surprise my sister and brother-in-law decide to move abroad.  But since I don’t have my own TCKs, the biggest child-related concern I have right now is a nephew that is going to grow up with a far away aunt.  So this is a letter for him.


To My Dear Nephew,

I haven’t even seen you with my eyes yet,

Or held you in my arms,

But I love you.


You’re not going to see much of me in person,

I’m going to miss many Christmases with you,

I’ll miss your birthday parties,

I won’t usually be in Michigan when you go to visit Grandma and Grandpa.


You’ll know me through skype and e-mail,

You’ll hear your mom and dad talk about me and pray for me,

You’ll read books that have Chinese in them,

And every few years, I’ll be there to hold you and play with you and teach you to eat with chopsticks.

In the meantime, I’ll be pouring over the pictures of you and watching every video.


Even though you can’t see me doesn’t mean I don’t love you.

Not being with you is part of the cost I’ve counted to do what I do.

I hope that some day you grow to understand.


You have hard days and weeks ahead,

There will be lots of days I wish I could be with you,

And wish I could give you, your mom, and your dad a hug.


But God will be with you,

Just like he is with me on the other side of the ocean.

No matter what happens in your life, I pray that you will know God loves you with “a never stopping, never giving up, unbreaking, always and forever love.”*


I love you, Little Bear.  And more importantly, God loves you.



Aunt Ruth


*The Jesus Storybook Bible, Sally Lloyd-Jones, ©2007, Zondervan, Grand Rapids, MI.

  1. Tracey


    What a lovely letter to your nephew! You’ll always have a special place in his heart and life, especially given your distance from him and the unique ways you two will be communicating.

    Congratulations, Auntie Ruth! And thanks for sharing this dear letter.

    Peace and love to you!

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